One day, an emo girl goes to school wearing a complex layering of autumn clothes she purchased at Urban Outfitters because she likes the way the outfit looks. For one day she has traded in her black band shirt, black skinny jeans, black backpack, and black finger nail polish for orange, red and brown. And layers. Lots of layers.
But she faces ridicule. Peers have no idea who she is trying to be. She shouldn’t wear the outfit according to the hipster kids and the emo kids. They’re all letting her know it.
And she knew this was going to be the reaction from everyone. So she never wears it.
Actually never buys it. She just plays the above scene in her head in the fitting room and leaves.
This scenario is me within every corner of life. If I feel I want to change something, I end up not changing because of the fear of drawing attention. I can’t get past the initial hour of being noticed. Or minute.
Every now and then, miraculously, I get through something new for a month. But that’s only a month. Is this really me?
But once the shock value of a month has worn off with every single person in my life I encounter, a funny thing occurs. They stop noticing. They will start to see me for who I am plus this change.
Outer changes like clothes or a new haircut are the most striking changes and have the greatest initial reaction.
But what if we want to go to the gym more often? This fear is rooted in something that makes no sense at all.
Can’t do something different because I can’t draw attention to doing something new.
Can’t face the hazing that will come from people who just know I won’t follow through and keep going to the gym.
I kid you not, those fears would flood my mind when it came to working out. You know, to do an activity designed to literally change me for the better.
We fear quitting to smoke because we forgot what it’s like not smoking. We fear changing careers because we are known only for what we have worked on up till now. We fear making ourselves better because then we have to explain how we got better.
Those are the lamest forms of fear. The absolute lamest.
You have to value yourself enough in order to make the changes you know you have to make. And yeah, people are going to notice. But as long as you know you are becoming more yourself, keep on changing.
Stop fearing becoming the better version of yourself you know you’ve wanted to become.
Wow. What an absolutely lame form of fear.